hmmmmmmmmm

monday = didn't wan to go to sch == nothing new.

Feeling happier =)

yesterday nite on msn, i was veri surprised when weiming told me that he've been reading my blog n he told me he thinks its veri interesting. =) This compliment of his realli did brighten up my day, cause i feel appreciated knowing that more ppl haf become more interested in wat kinda person i am deep down.

hmmm, back to u guys............... haf u ever been pleasantly surprised when someone drops by with a compliment for u that realli made ur day much happier? i'm sure at certain points of our life, we've all felt the same way.
Looking on e opposite side, how many times haf u been pissed when someone makes a rude or unappreciating comment at u that manages to totally destroy ur day? or ur mood? =)
I think the undoubted irony of these two opposing situations is that the latter one occurs much more frequently than the first one.

*ponders* so wat type of conclusion do we make here? that "everyone is here to make life worse for one another"? i beg to differ.........................rather i feel that most people in this world r too insensitive or perhaps lacking in the skills to communicate wif other ppl effectively.

Hmmmm remembered i read an old book abt this...................... so i immediately went to rummage my cupboard to find it.
There it is --------------- titled: How to win friends n influence people.
i bet some of u muz be thinking: "wat? xingyou read such boring n useless self improvement books? he's juz wasting time, it will never help him.............." i was once a sceptic abt these type of books, it was onli by chance that i discover this one book that did alter my perception of self-help. i shall share some of its contents with u guys (for those who r still sceptics) to give u an insight of the wealth of knowledge it can enpower u wif.

Under the first half of the book titled fundamental techinques in handling people, the second RULE states : Give honest n sincere appreciation.

"The deepest urge in human nature is to be important"
"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated"

note that it is not e longing nor the desire to be appreciated but rather it is the "craving"

it is this want to feel important that propels us to do most of the things that we realli do. Quoting some examples: We wan to be praised by others for being good in games or sports so we put in a lot of effort in order to earn those praises n feel important. The want for those ppl who r in dean's list to work harder to remain there --------------- so that ppl can sing their praises n make them feel appreciated n important. in fact most of the things u n i realli do in our lives is to strive for a sense of this greatness or importance.

Giving people wat they wan

If people are so hungry for this feeling of importance, imagine wat u n i can achieve by giving other people honest appreciation? "The way to develop the best in a person is by appreciation n encouragement" oh note that i'm not referring to flattery or patronizing of ppl around u by deliberately praising n appreciating them for things that they r realli not too good in.
Flattery is defined as telling the other person wat he thinks abt himself. ( i think this is a nice quote)

An average person spends abt 95% of his time thinking abt themselves. LOL. hahahah which makes u wonder how much does the self centered ppl around u think abt themselves.........................................hahahahah 100% i'm sure. If we realli can spend some time to think abt ur friends' good points, we won't haf to resort to using flattery that is so false n cheap.

Make an effort to give honest appreciation to the people around u. u can appreciate them for being helpful, concerned, motivated, and many other attributes that they do possess. n they'll reward u for it. Lets stop thinking of our accomplishments, our wants and try to find out other people's good points. Ppl will cherish ur words n treasure them n repeat them throughout their lifetimes ---------------------- years after u haf forgotten wat u said. Make the world work for u.


anyway, thx xiang n alice for ur tags on my blog. i shall blog abt wat i wan to blog ok? *hugz* thx for ur support n i realli appreciate it! =)


"Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise"